Bringing of the Bride: Others would ask at this time who gives this woman to be married to this man? But, as a woan is not property to be bought, sold, given or taken, I ask simply:
Who brings this woman to be married to this man?
We do her Children. or I do her Son. or I do, her Daughter.
Welcome: Welcome family and friends. In the eyes of God and each other, we are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to cherish the words that will unite the lives of Groom, Bride, Child, Child and Child.
They have invited us here today to rejoice with them and for them.
Opening: Groom and Bride, we are here to remember and rejoice with you and to recount with one another that it is love that guides us on our path, and to celebrate as the two of you along with Child, Child and Child begin this journey together.
In the days ahead of you, there will be times of conflict and times of joy. Harmony will be your reward if you follow this advice.
Let your love be stronger than your anger. Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break. Look for the best in the members of you family rather than the worst. Confide in your family and ask for help when you need it. Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. Give the members of your family the same courtesies and kindness’ you bestow on your friends. Say "I love you" every day.
And I ask you to remember what First Corinthians Chapter 13 teaches us of love: Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love is never-ending.
Vows: Groom and Bride, I remind you that marriage is a precious gift; a lifelong dedication to love and a daily challenge to love one another more fully and more freely.
Groom, with this understanding do you take Bride to be your wedded wife to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others and to be faithful only to her, so long as you both shall live? “I do”
Bride, with this understanding do you take Groom to be your wedded husband, to live together in marriage. Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others and to be faithful only to him, so long as you both shall live? “I do”
Rings: For thousands of years lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows. These simple bands are not of great value in themselves, but are made precious by our wearing of them. Your rings say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bound together.
Child, the rings please.
Groom, take the ring which you have selected and place it on Bride’s finger.
Bride, take the ring which you have selected and place it on Groom’s finger.
Now together, repeat after me: just as this circle is without end/ so is my love for you/ my promise to you will never fail/ with this ring/ I take you/ to be my trusted confidante/ and partner for life.
Family Vows: Would the entire family now join hands and together repeat after me. I give my heart/ and my unconditional love/ I promise to live in truth/ and to share fully/ and fearlessly/ as I join/ my life to yours.
(You may wish to add a prayer, reading or a song here)
Challenge to the Bride and Groom: Groom and Bride, May you never take each other's love for granted, but always experience that wonder that exclaims "WOW, out of all in the entire world, you chose me!" and when life is done, may you be found then as now, hand in hand, still thanking God that you found each other. Never forget to treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together in the first place.
Pronouncement: Although I'm officiating here today, it is not truly in my power to sanctify, legitimize or bless your relationship in any way, the two of you have already done that in your hearts. So, by looking into each other's eyes, let it be known that you are joined, body and soul in this lifetime, and that this bond is sacred and eternal.
You ARE Husband & Wife.
You may seal your vows with a kiss.
Ladies and gentlemen, it is my great honor to present to you for the first time as husband and wife;
Groom and Bride Smith with their children, Child, Child and Child